Tell Me No Lies: How to Stop Lying to Your Partner—and Yourself

🔹 Core Concept:  The book explores why couples lie—not just big lies, but subtle emotional deceptions—and how these lies impact marriage through four stages of growth: 	1.	The Honeymoon 	2.	Emerging Differences 	3.	Freedom 	4.	Together as Two  🔹 Main Focus:  It helps readers identify: 	•	The types of lies (to self and partner) 	•	The root causes behind deception 	•	The consequences of lying at each stage 	•	How to move toward honesty, intimacy, and emotional maturity  🔹 Practical Application:  It provides real-life examples, therapist insights, and exercises to help couples: 	•	Recognize defensive or dishonest patterns 	•	Communicate more transparently 	•	Rebuild trust and intimacy  🔹 Authors’ Background:  Bader and Pearson are founders of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, CA, and known for their Developmental Model of Couples Therapy—a method used widely by therapists worldwide.